Please help my dreams are relentlessly tempting me :-(

[PookieNumNums]

I have an addiction that I believe has ruined my life. I’ve had this addiction for a very long time. My gender is male .

I fight this addiction and stop but when I do things come up in my dream. The harder my will to stop the stronger they pop up in my dreams. This tempts me in my waking life.

Has anyone heard of this or experienced this? How do I get it to stop? 😢

 

[PaulKH]

Sad to hear it, though of course finding trained help (trained in your specifics as well as all tried-and-tested avenues) is far more likely to give you the insights you need.

I can only offer general encouragement: I know consistent willpower is your most powerful tool in your struggles, and it's hopeful that on some level you already understand this. I also know you *can* stop your dreams or distract them (diverting your emotional resources) or power through them (this can also be learned/exercised much as anything else we do, through consistent repetition/conditioning). I wish you the best.

 

[PookieNumNums]

Sad to hear it, though of course finding trained help (trained in your specifics as well as all tried-and-tested avenues) is far more likely to give you the insights you need.

I can only offer general encouragement: I know consistent willpower is your most powerful tool in your struggles, and it's hopeful that on some level you already understand this. I also know you *can* stop your dreams or distract them (diverting your emotional resources) or power through them (this can also be learned/exercised much as anything else we do, through consistent repetition/conditioning). I wish you the best.

Do you think this is normal or is there a reason this happens to me every time I put my entire being into quitting? Does it mean I have a higher self awareness ?

 

[Lyn Holley]

You might consider the word, "integration." How do we integrate our shadows and addictions into our ego personalities? We can't just cut off part of ourselves, this is repression and comes roaring back. We have to really acknowledge these things examine them. We have to see what need they are fulfilling? If it's pornography, how is this standing in for real love and intimacy? How do I acknowledge that I have been trying to fill a gap, and then move toward more of what I want? How to I delve into the heart of addiction and see what lies there? Is it my longing for the beauty and perfection of God? How do I get the support I need to integrate these qualities into myself.

 

[MistressLex]

I have an addiction that I believe has ruined my life. I’ve had this addiction for a very long time. My gender is male .

I fight this addiction and stop but when I do things come up in my dream. The harder my will to stop the stronger they pop up in my dreams. This tempts me in my waking life.

Has anyone heard of this or experienced this? How do I get it to stop? 😢

It's a common theme among people with addictions to have there mind focus on there desires and the subtext about it.
You're not alone, but therapy (the right cognitive therapy) can help your brain ease the struggles and focus.